We have started to receive gifts, cash and donations for our wedding. How do I properly thank guests?

How to write nice thank you notes for your wedding gifts

Although it can be an overwhelming task, there is no job more important than that of showing guests your appreciation with a thoughtful thank you note.

Organizing your thank you notes

Keeping track of what notes you’ve written can be difficult, and you don’t want anyone to slip through the cracks. Keeping organized is key! We are big fans of Google Drive, which allows you to create a spreadsheet or word processing document and share it with others. Create a spreadsheet to update with the name of the gift-giver, a short description of the gift, the date you received it, and the date you sent the thank you note. Update this spreadsheet every time you receive a gift (and share it with your partner).

Keeping track of money raised through a charity registry

Use your donation report (part of your charity registry) to track the donations you have received. You can also use the amount of money raised to aid you in writing your notes: “We are thrilled to have raised $XX for our charity so far. We are hoping to make a big impact through our wedding!”

Electronic thank you notes

Looking to go “green”? While a thank you e-mail is too casual, check out Paperless Post’s thank you note option—these classy e-cards are delivered with a beautiful animation of an envelope opening. Paperless Post has truly found a way to make online mail more formal.

Writing your thank you notes

Need help writing your thank you notes? There are many websites online that help with sample wording, but we prefer something personal and to-the-point for traditional gifts:

  1. “We were so excited to receive your gift the other day.”
  2. Name the gift, and say why you liked it: “The bamboo bowl is beautiful, and we love how it looks on our dining table.”
  3. Say how you’ve used it: “We used it for salad just last night!”
  4. Thank them: “Thank you so much for the thoughtful gift—it is so ‘us’.”
  5. Tell them you look forward to seeing them on your wedding day, or say how much you enjoyed seeing them if the day has already passed.

Did you receive a cash gift? Try this:

  1. “We were so excited to receive your gift the other day.”
  2. Say how you have used it or plan to use it: “We are saving for a downpayment on our first home, and your generous gift has gotten us even closer to our goal!”
  3. Thank them: “Thank you so much for the thoughtful gift—it means a lot to us.”
  4. Tell them you look forward to seeing them on your wedding day, or say how much you enjoyed seeing them if the day has already passed.

donation though your charity registry? Here’s what we would suggest:

  1. “We were so excited to receive your gift the other day.”
  2. Tell them why you decided to support your charity: “We decided to support the American Cancer Society in honor of John’s dad, who passed away last year from lymphoma.”
  3. Tell them how their donation will help: “The American Cancer Society works to find a cure, and your donation helps!”
  4. Tell them how much you have raised: “So far, we have raised $X.”
  5. Thank them: “Thank you so much for the thoughtful gift—it means a lot to us.”
  6. Tell them you look forward to seeing them on your wedding day, or say how much you enjoyed seeing them if the day has already passed.

However you write them, and however you send them—just make sure to do it, and promptly. Did you drop the ball on some of your thank you notes? If a lot of time has passed, write them anyway. You know what they say: better late than never.